Just Friends???
Sad to say, we, as human beings, are curious in nature. We don't just want to see things as it is. We tend to assume or read between the lines when in fact, what you see is just what you get. Gets?
Example #1. When a single guy volunteers to accompany a not-so-close friend to get something somewhere, the friend would assume that the guy likes her and there you have it, a 'moment' has developed (or she would think).
Example #2: When a single girl becomes friendly to a guy she just met and they suddenly have this great conversation over the phone, the guy would assume that they had a 'moment' (or so he thought).
How do we really define 'moments'? How do we differentiate and see the fine line between being just friends or being more than that? Sometimes it's human nature that dictates the answers to these questions. Human nature tells us that when a good-looking guy develops a kind of friendship with a girl (whether single or not), people would think that there is an attraction between them...but no one would really know.
It is very possible for people of the opposite sex to become close friends and not be attracted to each other. Believe me, I've been there. And for my gay friends (who I love so much), I know that it is very possible to become close friends and not have any attraction...
Sometimes, guys are just plain friendly and people should stop assuming. Unfortunately, when girls become too friendly (regardless whether you're single or not), human nature dictates that it's wrong...human nature tells us that this girl is easy or desperate. It sucks I know but if you want to be part of the norm, you have to accept it one way or another.
Why am I talking about this? Well, I am sick and tired of hearing gossips about moments that never really took place...or about imaginary moments that were fabricated by people...I am so tired of listening to stories that this person had a 'moment' with this person, only to find out that the person was just assuming. Lastly, I am sick and tired of people assuming that just because someone is too friendly, he already has a hidden agenda.
I just wish that someday, we would all be open-minded enough to see that friends are friends, nothing more nothing less...let us for once stop wondering whether this guy likes us because he's nice to us or because he's so friendly and fun to be with. Guys need female friends too...and there's nothing wrong with that. Something becomes wrong when you start to have malicious thoughts or when you assume too much. In the end, sinong talo? Diba ikaw din? So why waste your time on pondering on those impossible 'what ifs'?
Just take it as it is...you will be just friends....accept that now...before you end up getting hurt. And to those people who love to assume and gossip, just remember that what goes around comes around. I'm pretty much certain that you wouldn't want the last laugh to be on you..
Example #1. When a single guy volunteers to accompany a not-so-close friend to get something somewhere, the friend would assume that the guy likes her and there you have it, a 'moment' has developed (or she would think).
Example #2: When a single girl becomes friendly to a guy she just met and they suddenly have this great conversation over the phone, the guy would assume that they had a 'moment' (or so he thought).
How do we really define 'moments'? How do we differentiate and see the fine line between being just friends or being more than that? Sometimes it's human nature that dictates the answers to these questions. Human nature tells us that when a good-looking guy develops a kind of friendship with a girl (whether single or not), people would think that there is an attraction between them...but no one would really know.
It is very possible for people of the opposite sex to become close friends and not be attracted to each other. Believe me, I've been there. And for my gay friends (who I love so much), I know that it is very possible to become close friends and not have any attraction...
Sometimes, guys are just plain friendly and people should stop assuming. Unfortunately, when girls become too friendly (regardless whether you're single or not), human nature dictates that it's wrong...human nature tells us that this girl is easy or desperate. It sucks I know but if you want to be part of the norm, you have to accept it one way or another.
Why am I talking about this? Well, I am sick and tired of hearing gossips about moments that never really took place...or about imaginary moments that were fabricated by people...I am so tired of listening to stories that this person had a 'moment' with this person, only to find out that the person was just assuming. Lastly, I am sick and tired of people assuming that just because someone is too friendly, he already has a hidden agenda.
I just wish that someday, we would all be open-minded enough to see that friends are friends, nothing more nothing less...let us for once stop wondering whether this guy likes us because he's nice to us or because he's so friendly and fun to be with. Guys need female friends too...and there's nothing wrong with that. Something becomes wrong when you start to have malicious thoughts or when you assume too much. In the end, sinong talo? Diba ikaw din? So why waste your time on pondering on those impossible 'what ifs'?
Just take it as it is...you will be just friends....accept that now...before you end up getting hurt. And to those people who love to assume and gossip, just remember that what goes around comes around. I'm pretty much certain that you wouldn't want the last laugh to be on you..
posted by kat's corner at 1:13 PM
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