He Doesnt' Love You Enough...

Disclaimer: I did not write this piece. But it's just so inspiring that I decided to post it here. It's Ivy's fault. Haha! Anyway, this is for all my girlfriends..

Bato bato sa langit, tamaan ay 'wag magalit....sige, di na ko magagalit.. ;)

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He calls, he tells me he misses me, asks me out often, is relentlessly sweet and thoughtful. I am always on cloud nine and unapologetically unable to wipe the grin off my face. I am in love with him and although he hasn't said so yet, I am sure he loves me back. Herein lies the tragedy.

With men, until he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend, you are not on safe ground. No matter how few the minutes are between his text messages or his phone calls, even if he has tried to hold your hand, carefully picked off the eyelash from under your eye, and wiped the crumb that was perched on your upper lip, assume that he just wants to be friends. Assume otherwise and you’ll be in for a great big heartbreak.

When faced with the same given in the same situation, no matter where they come from, they will all do the same thing. Enter the questions women love to ask:

(1) Why hasn’t he called me the past few days?

(2) If he likes being with me so much, why doesn't he leave his girlfriend/wife for me?

There is just one answer to all these questions: he doesn’t love you enough.

He hasn’t left his girlfriend or his wife for you. Sometimes men are looking for icing on the cake in the form of a woman friend who plugs in all the gap that his better half cannot fill. She is usually somebody with slightly different qualities than his mate. He enjoys being with her, calls her all the time, consults with her about life-altering decisions but does not really come out and make a decision about who he wants to be with simply because he is in a “safe place."

He has the best of both worlds and doesn’t need to make a choice. If he hasn’t left her for you yet, chances are, he won’t. Telltale signs: she is still his priority. When she calls and asks him to pick her up, he hurriedly finishes his meal and tells you that he has to go. When you ask him out on days when he has to take her home, he’ll say he can’t.

You notice that you are only together when his schedule permits it and when seeing you don’t conflict with his time with her. You get the crumbs.

This kind of arrangement only tells you that he doesn’t love you enough to forsake his girlfriend for you. If he takes a chance by leaving her for you, you’re sure that he loves you. Most men would stay with the safe, the tried and tested over risking everything. It takes a lot for them to, believe me.

Obviously, you don’t want to be second best or the pangtawid-gutom. Find someone who will make you his only priority. Although they pretend and seem otherwise, men are not idiots when it comes to matters of the heart. They know full well what they want out of the relationship. They do not need to be rescued by you. They don’t need hints, carefully crafted text messages or highway billboards that promise them a bed of roses with you. If they really like you, they will do anything to get you to like them back.

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